Category Archives: War


Most of my life I liked knowing that as a man there wouldn’t be a child coming through my body. The idea seemed way too painful. One day a woman I know said something about how cathartic childbirth was and now she didn’t fear death.
Pardon me? What do you mean? I asked very seriously since fearing death was right up there among my favourite things to do. She said giving birth was, for her, like dying. She anticipated her actual death will be exhilarating as a result. That is the word she used, exhilarating.
It occurred to me for the first time nature might set things up like that. Maybe many women have an experience with childbirth altering their state of mind forever also about dying. I was envious.

Two Worlds

As above so below. There’s two worlds all the time, the big world and the small world. The world of international stars and the world of local stars. For every truly amazing actor everyone knows a truly amazing unknown actor. True in every art form – painters, dancers, musicians, etc.  My students love Bruno Mars but there’s someone local just as good, maybe better just not yet sponsored by Heineken or touring the world with a major label 360 deal.

An artist from Toronto bemoaned to me once in the late 90s “I’m just going to write some hits – I’ve had it”. She isn’t the first person to talk that way, yes she knew the ingredients common to hits in terms of melody, lyrics, structure and arrangement. Now it’s about 20 years later and you’ve never heard of her. Maybe she changed her mind…or maybe there were some missing links to her plan – perhaps the interest of someone with a lot of money to back the project, advertise and promote it. Also maybe a little luck was needed. You can’t plan luck but you can be smart enough to realize luck is in the room when it opens the door.