There are people you talk to who appear to be with you but you know they are not really present, drifting off somewhere, not listening and other people can be so authentic and real. It is like the two different states of music playing. In one, the music seems mailed in, the person can execute it while daydreaming (probably are). In the other they are connected in a different way, undistracted and in the moment. Taking in all the cues and being present.
Sometimes when a fly gets in the room and I try to catch it and “relocate it”. This requires being in the more conscious state. You have to see where the fly is and consider whether it is watching you. Then you have to slink up to it super carefully and efficiently make your move. It is about showing a lot of sensitivity and selectivity about where to come in. If you don’t focus on it you can’t catch it.